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When I first read the idea from Hands Free Mama, I knew I had to do it – write love letters to my kids.
I didn’t want it to be a project that I added on my list of things to do later, so I wrote the letters that same night. I wrote what came to mind right away, without over-thinking or over-editing. I printed them on the prettiest paper I already had in the house. I didn’t worry when the ink printed in alternating colors for no reason. I shared them the next day.
Her idea was so simple, to give examples, to put it in writing and to include an ‘i’m sorry’ for when you have made mistakes. Then, have a sit-down conversation, longer than an every-day-i-love-you, one that might sink in a little deeper and might be remembered a little more.
I thought to include my letter to Sparkles, as an example, but I copied the idea and the format and much of the last few paragraphs from Hands Free Mama, so you should read hers instead.
When I read Buttercup’s letter to her, she smiled a lot and we shared hugs and kisses. Sparkles understood more, she snuggled her head in my shoulder and put her arm around me. With my teenage step-daughter, it has been more complicated. I left her letter on her pillow.
Sometimes Mom Blogs help me understand and sometimes they make me laugh, but this post helped me be a better Mom. These won’t be my only love letters to my kids. Thank you, Hands Free Mama. Thank you, Two Cannoli, for introducing me to Hands Free Mama. And thanks most of all to Buttercup, Sparkles and Noel. I love y’all very much.