OK, whatever, I want to say to Time magazine about it’s cover for its article about Attachment Parenting. It is sensational and sexualized and designed to create a reaction. But, if they had a more traditional cover, maybe a nice picture of Dr Sears in his doctor’s coat with his arms crossed, people wouldn’t be talking about it now. It is hard to get people’s attention these days.
Here are my thoughts:
1. I’m having a crazy-hard time writing this post. I want to exaggerate and use humor, but whatever I write sounds like I’m getting into the Mommy Wars and I don’t mean it that way.
2. With my girls, I use Dr. Sears’ loving style combined with Gary Ezzo’s (Baby Wise) practical strategies. Both of these guys make me super nuts, but I use some ideas from both of them too. In my mind, it is like these guys got married, had a baby and their DNA mixed and that is what works for me.
3. If I met Dr. Sears, I would tell him that I appreciate his message to cuddle, kiss and love on your babies. But, I didn’t do extended breast feeding, co-sleeping or baby wearing and my kids and I are very close and well attached.
4. If I met Gary Ezzo, I would tell them that I appreciate his message that parenting is a balance between the parents’ and the kids’ needs and independence and attachment are both valuable for babies and kids. But, I don’t control my kids’ beginning and ending nap times, that degree of control doesn’t work for me.
5. I think it is funny that both of these guys use science and anecdotal stories of mothering in more primitive cultures to support very opposite conclusions. Human nature makes the definition of truth interesting sometimes.
Most of all, I appreciate that there isn’t one RIGHT way out there. As Moms, we read and evaluate and try and share and we find our own way.
Maybe next time I’ll write a more snarky and bold post like “24-hour parenting, REALLY?, #$%#$%@#$@#$!!!!” or “Control Exactly When My Kid Wakes Up, REALLY?, @#$@#$@#$#@$!!!” That would certainly get more links and tweets and views, but I didn’t feel like that today. This is my less sensational approach not designed to get a reaction, just meant to say that, on this Mother’s Day, may we all find our own way.